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We are just a couple of hours away from the premiere of the second episode of Just Us Girls season 3.
And I just can’t wait to get started. But before then, let’s discuss something very striking and very important most people still don’t know, or don’t notice in relationships.
It is about the guy named Tomiwa.
A lot has happened already — Munachi is obviously no longer in Kayin’s life.
But he’s still not over the fact that he lost her.
Jite – the one and only Jite – looks on the edge and still there is no sign of Sammy or any other man in her life.
Ameh is currently dealing with trauma. A lot is going on as usual but the main focus for this article is on Tomiwa and Kayin.
Who is Tomiwa?
Let’s do it this way. Kayinsola was in courtship with Munachi.
But Kayin’s mom, Chief never liked Munachi and was always forcing at Kayin to get rid of him and marry somebody who had a formal education and was into one of the “respectable” professions.
But that wasn’t enough to keep Munachi out of Kayin’s life.
The problem with Kayin from the start was her shifty lifestyle. Kayin just doesn’t know how to stop lying.
She kept up the lies until Tomiwa came along.
Everything finally erupted at an event.
Monachi being a chef is serving at this event. But moments before that, Muna had spoken with Kayin who told him she was busy at a different place.
Imagine Munachi’s surprise when she saw the love of her life, somebody he trusted so much having fun at an event with another man, at a place she lied to him about.
Muna’s heart was broken beyond repair.
And this was not the first time this had happened and for Muna, he’d had enough.
Kayin moved on and she is getting married to Tomiwa.
But then we notice something about Tomiwa. Tomiwa as a person is charismatic, charming, confident, and seems to always have it all together.
But is that really all to it?
But before I go on I must say he absolutely destroyed the character. He killed it. I love him on the role as Tomiwa. Just superb!
Confident and Charismatic or A Total Psychopath?
During the introduction, Kayin walks into Tomiwa being all too close and smushy with another lady.
But we notice that Tomiwa doesn’t even as much as flinch. (Hold that, we’ll put it all together)
The next day, Kayin confronts Tomiwa about what happened.
But what we observe is what brings the big question: Is Tomiwa just confident and charismatic or is he a psychopath?
As Kayin is questioning him about what she saw, Tomiwa is not even stressed a bit.
Rather he tries to joke about it but when he sees that Kayin wasn’t buying it, he goes on to say he was just teasing.
I was almost pinching myself. All the signs are there, but how is Kayin not seeing?
It’s not confidence and charm, it narcissism and psychopathy all in one place.
To prove all these true, moments later, Tomiwa goes to sleep with a celebrity who called her while he was with Kayin, who he basically said, was a call from the office.
Let me explain what Kayin is getting herself into.
What is it about psychopathy? The thing with a psychopath is that they don’t respond to danger or threats the way other people do.
What gets your nervous system into shock, and makes you sweat or anxious doesn’t affect them the same way.
In some cases, they hardly even have any response from their system to threats or danger.
This is the trait that keeps them calm and confident, 24/7.
While we may love this trait of confidence and charisma, it is the same thing that makes a psychopath so good at cheating and lying.
They can look you dead on and lie so we’ll without any trace, even when you caught them in the act.
Like it happened to Kayin.
Heck, they can even push the blame on you if you’re not careful.
Gaslighting
Imagine Tomiwa telling Kayin she’s jealous.
That’s a classic case of gaslighting. They use your reaction to what they did to blame you, instead of taking responsibility for what they did.
This would normally make you see yourself as being too hard or harsh.
It will make you doubt your feelings and excuse them for their actions.
It is called gaslighting. Part of this tactic is blame shifting.
So before you get all carried away by charisma and confidence and easygoing and outgoing, which of course are all good things, watch out for the gaslighting and blame-shifting tactics you’ll find when you’re with a psychopath.
See my article on the Personality Trait Makeup to learn more about this.
But some think Tomiwa is just being real. Is this true? We discuss this in another post.
you can read it here: MR. Tomiwa! Is he just being real?
