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Every relationship has ups and downs, but what separates thriving, lasting relationships from those that struggle? The answer lies in daily habits — not just one-off grand gestures.
Studies indicate that couples who consistently engage in positive relationship behaviors are more likely to experience satisfaction and longevity in their partnerships.
Those positive relationship behaviors are what we want to highlight in this article.
In a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, researchers found that couples who frequently express appreciation and communicate effectively report higher levels of relationship happiness.
Dr. John Gottman, a leading relationship psychologist, states, “Successful couples aren’t those who never fight, but those who know how to repair effectively and make each other feel valued.”
This article explores seven key habits that healthy couples practice and how you can incorporate them into your own relationship for a stronger, more fulfilling connection.
Related: Qualities of A Good Man.
What Makes Healthy Relationships?
There are many misconceptions about successful relationships. Some believe that a lack of conflict is a sign of a healthy partnership, but research shows that disagreements, when handled constructively, actually strengthen relationships.
Another common myth is that partners should always complete each other, when in reality, a strong relationship involves two emotionally healthy individuals who support each other’s personal growth.
Psychologically, a healthy relationship is one that fosters mutual respect, emotional support, trust, and open communication.
Many believe that love alone is enough to sustain a relationship, but deep, lasting bonds require consistent effort and intentional actions.
Psychologists have studied relationships for decades, identifying behaviors and patterns that promote intimacy and satisfaction.
Insights from renowned researchers like Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Esther Perel emphasize that emotional security, autonomy, and mutual respect are at the core of successful relationships.
The 7 Things People in Healthy Relationships Do
We’ve talked long enough. Let’s discuss the top behaviors you’ll find in healthy relationships.
1. They Communicate Openly and Honestly
Effective communication is a cornerstone of any thriving relationship. Healthy couples openly express their feelings, needs, and concerns while also practicing active listening.
Ad communication is not just about talking to your partner. It’s also about making things clear, such that both parties understand each other.
This will also take conscious effort. While talking to each other may come naturally to some, many of us have a hard time communicating because of personality type or childhood issues.
Whatever the cause, if you find you are not good with communication, you’ll have to make the effort to improve.
Ways to Improve Communication:
- Practice active listening by giving full attention to your partner.
- Express emotions clearly, using “I” statements instead of blame.
- Set aside time for deep conversations without distractions.
- Communicate ideas with your partner and invite them to be part of it as much as you can. This makes them feel valued and needed.
2. They Maintain Mutual Respect
Respect is the foundation of a long-lasting relationship. Healthy couples value each other’s opinions, honor personal boundaries, and celebrate individuality.
Even Peter spoke about this when addressing couples. “…husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife…” 1st Peter 3:7
Behaviors That Foster Respect:
- Speaking kindly even during disagreements.
- Allowing each other to maintain friendships and personal interests.
- Honoring boundaries without resentment.
Lack of respect can lead to resentment and emotional disconnect, which can weaken the relationship over time.
Even worse, the relationship may become toxic and spiral out of control.
3. They Support Each Other’s Growth
In strong relationships, partners encourage each other’s personal and professional development.
They celebrate achievements and provide reassurance during setbacks. No matter how small, celebrate your partner’s achievements, you’re their no. 1 fan.
And be there to encourage them when they feel down. Remind them of their successes when they fail. Let them know they have what it takes to win as they have done in the past.
Author and psychologist Dr. Terri Orbuch explains, “Happy couples motivate each other to grow and evolve, rather than feeling threatened by change.”
How to Support Your Partner’s Growth:
- Celebrate milestones—big or small.
- Be an attentive listener when your partner shares their dreams.
- Avoid controlling behaviors or discouraging personal ambitions.
4. They Resolve Conflicts Constructively
Conflict is inevitable, but how couples handle disagreements determines the health of the relationship.
Instead of resorting to hostility or avoidance, healthy couples seek constructive resolution.
- Don’t attack your partner: One of the things couples do wrong is put blame instead of findng solutions to the problem. Don’t do this.
- Don’t use offensive words: Try as much as possible to keep from using vile words on your partner. These words stick with them. And even when it was said out of anger, they will always remember it. This makes the pain stay longer.
Dr. John Gottman identifies The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—as patterns that predict relationship failure.
And once people start having to defend themselves, they will come up with all kinds of offensive and toxic patterns.
5. They Prioritize Quality Time Together
Spending intentional time together strengthens emotional intimacy. In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in responsibilities and forget to nurture the relationship.
You have your job, kids, friends, Church, health and fitness, etc. It can be difficult to make time for the relationship.
A study from the Journal of Marriage and Family found that couples who engage in shared activities report higher relationship satisfaction.
Ways to Increase Quality Time:
- Set regular date nights, even if they’re at home.
- Unplug from devices during conversations.
- Engage in shared hobbies or try new experiences together.
6. They Trust Each Other Fully
Trust is the glue that holds relationships together. this one here has no substitute.
Trust allows partners to feel safe and secure in their connection. Trust need to be maintained and nurtured.
The fact that someone trusts you should not make you do things that look questionable and not take the time to explain to the other partner.
If you lose trust, it takes time to get it back. So do what it take sto maintain it.
Ways to Build and Maintain Trust:
- Be dependable—keep promises and follow through on commitments.
- Maintain transparency and avoid secrecy.
- Address concerns openly instead of allowing insecurity to grow.
If trust is broken, repairing it requires deep accountability, open communication, and consistent reassurance.
7. They Practice Gratitude and Appreciation
Expressing appreciation has a profound impact on relationship satisfaction.
Dr. Robert Emmons, a leading gratitude researcher, states, “Gratitude helps people acknowledge their partner’s value, increasing emotional connection and trust.”
Daily Gestures That Show Appreciation:
- Saying “thank you” for small and big efforts.
- Leaving little thoughtful notes or messages.
- Complimenting your partner regularly.
Simple acts of gratitude foster a positive emotional climate and deepen the bond between partners.
The most difficult things are things your partner does everyday. Don’t get so used to things that you take them for granted and forget to say thank you.
How to Cultivate These Habits in Your Own Relationship
Every relationship has room for improvement. Take time to assess whether your partnership embodies these seven habits and identify areas to enhance.
Practical Steps to Implement These Behaviors
- Start small: Pick one habit to focus on each week.
- Communicate openly: Have an honest conversation with your partner about relationship goals.
- Practice consistency: Healthy relationships are built on long-term efforts.
When to Seek Help
If your relationship struggles with deep-seated issues such as trust violations, poor communication, or unresolved conflicts, seeking professional help from a relationship therapist can be beneficial.
Expert Insights and Quotes
Psychologists emphasize the importance of continuous growth in relationships. You may know some of these great teachers.
- “The secret to a thriving relationship? Consistent, daily efforts that prioritize love and mutual respect.” — Dr. Sue Johnson
- “Emotional security is built when couples nurture habits that foster connection, trust, and healthy communication.” — Dr. Esther Perel
- “Gratitude, when practiced daily, acts as an emotional buffer against resentment.” — Dr. Robert Emmons
For further reading, books such as The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman and Attached by Amir Levine provide valuable insights into relationship psychology.
Final thought
Healthy relationships don’t just happen—they require effort, communication, and mutual commitment.
Start small by implementing one habit this week. Whether it’s expressing more gratitude or improving communication, every step matters in strengthening your bond.
A thriving partnership isn’t about perfection but about mutual love, respect, and a willingness to grow together.
Expert Tips
✔ Quick Ways to Enhance Trust: Follow through on promises and practice transparency.
✔ Red Flags That Indicate Issues: Chronic criticism, lack of respect, or avoidance of diffcult conversations.
✔ Self-Care in Relationships: Prioritize your individual well-being; a healthy relationship starts with a healthy you.
May your relationship overflow with love, joy, and respect. 💙
